A Love Without Kisses

As a parent, there are moments that tug at your heartstrings, and one of those is my seven-year-old son, who now refuses to give or receive kisses. It’s a notable change from when he was a small child, showering us with sweet, spontaneous hugs, kisses, and random snuggle sessions.

In a world where physical affection often flows freely, his resistance stands out. It’s not that he doesn’t love; I see it in his laughter, his creativity, and the way he lights up when he plays. But when it comes to hugs and kisses, he draws a line.

This can sometimes lead to awkward moments. People often get offended when he refuses to hug them, and while I understand their feelings, it’s tough to watch my son navigate those social expectations. I often wonder what shapes his feelings. Is it sensory overload? A preference for personal space? Or simply his unique way of expressing love? As someone who relates to his experiences, I understand the complexities that can accompany affection.

When I try to give him a kiss, he might turn his cheek or back away. I usually ask now if I can kiss him to which the answer is always “no” so I settle for a hug instead. While it stings a bit, I respect his boundaries. I want him to feel comfortable in his own skin, even if that means we express love differently now.

Instead of kisses, we find our own ways to connect. We share lots of laughter, story time, hugs (sometimes), and moments of quiet understanding. I cherish those times, knowing that love can be felt even without traditional expressions.

It’s important to recognize that every child is different. My son’s aversion to kisses and hugs doesn’t diminish his capacity for love or connection; it simply shows that he navigates the world in his own unique way. And that’s something to celebrate. He is something to celebrate.

In sharing this, I hope to reach other parents who might feel a similar feeling in their hearts. It’s okay to embrace the differences and find joy in the little things. Love comes in many forms, and sometimes, the quiet moments are the most profound.

To those who don’t understand why Carson hates hugs and kisses, I ask for your empathy. His feelings are valid, and he navigates the world in his own unique way.

Until you read again