Calvin

Calvin has one of the most beautiful hearts I’ve ever known.


He loves with his whole soul. Not halfway. Not when it’s convenient. Always.

He’s passionate in a rare kind of way. When he’s interested in something, he pours himself into it. It’s never just a hobby or a passing phase. It becomes a part of him. And he talks about it with so much excitement that you can’t help but care, too. He stares at the moon like he’ll never see it again, and I love that about him. He finds beauty in the things most people overlook. He sniffs his ramen packets, and tilts his head back like he’s never smelt anything so delightful. I never understood it, but I wouldn’t want him any other way. To see him appreciate such a strange, simple thing, makes my heart happy.


That same passion spills into the way he loves people. The way he loves me. The way he loves our kids. You can feel it in the small things, the way he shows up every day, the way he remembers the little things, the way he always makes space for exactly who I am.


His mind works in such a unique way. He sees things differently than most. He makes connections others miss. He’s smart in ways that don’t always get noticed. He’s deep, thoughtful, and wildly creative. Sometimes I just sit back and listen to him talk because the way he thinks amazes me. He can name any car by its headlights. His brain holds thousands of lyrics to thousands of songs. And he can rap like no other.


He never tries to change me. He’s never made me feel like I have to be someone else. With him, I get to just be. And somehow, that’s enough. Actually, it’s more than enough. Calvin makes me feel like me is exactly who I’m supposed to be.


I’m not always good at saying things out loud. I bottle things up. And when I finally say what I mean, I usually get it wrong, but I hope he knows how much I see him. How much I feel him. I hope he knows I love his passion, his weird and wonderful brain, and his heart that somehow always seems to have room for more.


People like him don’t come around often.


And I’m so, so lucky I get to call him mine.

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